The 25 Best Marriage Advice Tips to Share with New Couples

It’s weddin’ season! Here at the Joyner household, we’ve started getting adorable wedding invites and save-the-dates for this upcoming year’s weddings. All these invites and save-the-dates on my fridge make me so thankful that that crazy planning season is over for us…but also nostalgic and reminiscent of all the fun times Bryce and I had to plan and make our day perfect for us. As weddings approach this spring, summer, and fall (don’t you just LOVE a fall wedding???)…you will probably have the opportunity at some point to share some of your sage-like wisdom during a bridal shower game or in an advice jar at the wedding itself (or on an adorable little tree like my dear friend Casey had at her wedding–see below). In this post, I’ve compiled a list for you of 25 of our favorite marriage advice tips that we received from our sweet (and ridiculous!!) friends and family before our big day.

You see, much like many other 21st Century couples these days it seems, Bryce and I couldn’t do traditional. We didn’t send traditional invites, or RSVPs. We thought it would be fun to hear some advice from everyone we invited to the wedding, even if they couldn’t come…so we came up with a fun way to let them be a part of our day regardless. On our DIY RSVP postcard, one side allowed our guests to RSVP, and the other side was a MadLib for them to fill out (complete with marriage advice section). Personally, I’ve been known to find RSVPs to others’ weddings I have filled out with all good intention, and completely forgotten to mail back….months after the wedding occurred (yikes!). I wanted to give people a little more incentive to return their RSVPs, and this method really worked! So many of our friends and family members were so eager to get the RSVPs back to us so we could read them…and each day that we got some in the mail was so much fun…if only just to read the MadLib with the marriage advice.

I remember that day when we got our first RSVP returned to us. I was so excited…and decided I had to come up with a way to keep it all forever…so I bought an empty album on sale at Joann, ordered some 5×7 photo album inserts, and created a home for all of our great advice.

We got tons of really loving honest advice, and of course we got some hilarious advice as well. Here are our favorites…for you to pass on to others when it’s your turn to share wisdom.

1. Always laugh, never fart in bed (yeah right), and remember to eat plenty of fiber. (This was our FIRST returned RSVP…thanks so much Chris and Lindsey. This couldn’t have been any more perfect!)
2. Always love each other, never go to bed angry, and remember to always kiss each other goodnight.
3. Always stay Christ-centered, never whine, and remember to pray together before bedtime (Advice from my dear grandpa and recently deceased grandma)
4. Always encourage each other, never belittle, and remember to hug and kiss a lot (Advice from my other very smoochy grandparents)
5. Always love one another, never doubt one another, and remember to look at each day as new opportunities (From Bryce’s sweet grandparents!)
6. Always trust each other, never refuse to help each other, and remember to kiss goodnight. (From Bryce’s other happily married grandparents)
7. Always run, never yell, and remember to punch. (From our friends’ 11 and 6 year old boys)
8. Always communicate, never leaver the toilet seat up, and remember to laugh together often. (Bryce really heeded this advice. I’ve only found the toilet seat up like one time…and it was from me throwing up while pregnant.)
9. Always stay true to each other, never forget the magic, and remember to always love my Morgan.
10. Always brush your teeth, never bite ice, and remember to floss. (Thanks mom and dad!)
11. Always stay friends, never stop dating, and remember to put the toilet seat down.
12. Always listen, never blame, and remember to fart discretely.
13. Always look at the positives, never say I told you so,” and remember to pick up after yourself.
14. Always sing in the shower, never eat yellow snow, and remember to make out.
    
15. Always laugh, never eat the other’s leftovers, and remember to put the seat down, Bryce!
16. Always communicate, never hog all the blankets, and remember to have fun. (We have not been able to master the blanket-hogging problem yet.)
17. Always laugh, never give the silent treatment, and remember to take care of one another. (Added advice from these friends: When you fight, agree to only do it in a British accent.)
18. Always laugh together, never blame each other, and remember to stick together as a team….Happy wife, Happy life!
19. Always listen to the woman, never go to bed mad at each other, and remember to have fun.
20. Always cuddle, never pop each other’s zits, and remember to keep Morgan’s EpiPen handy!
21. Always do crafts, never spill, and remember to bow chicka wow wow.
22. Always tell the truth, never hide your feelings, and remember to give each other grace!
23. Always let Morgan be right, never let hurt fester, and remember to talk it out when disagreements arise.
24. Always work at it, never give up, and remember to pick your battles.
25. Always choose joy, never go to bed angry, and remember to stay anchored in Christ’s love.

What is some of your favorite marriage advice you’ve been given, or love to give to others? Share it in the comments below!

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